A Quick Guide On How To Get Respect At Work When You Feel Unappreciated
Posted on June 14 2017
Do you ever feel unappreciated at work?
If so, you’re not alone. One of the major reasons people leave a workplace is because they feel unappreciated or undervalued.
The working environment can be stressful and overwhelming at times. On top of the challenges you face within your role, you are also competing with a mix of different personalities which can lead to conflict.
There are a variety of reasons you may feel neglected or under appreciated, many of which are out of your direct control.
However, there are also several things you can do to take this situation into your own hands. Here are some quick tips you can use at work to help get the respect you deserve.
1. Meet deadlines and turn up on time
Missing a deadline is a big indicator that you're not performing your job as you should. Being late for work is also a big no, no. If you want your boss and coworkers to see you as a good worker, you'll want to make it a priority to meet all your deadlines and show up to work on time every day.
2. Be humble
No one likes a bragger. Constantly telling others how great you are, can start to wear on people's emotions, and it often has the reverse effect to what you intend.
If you're interested in having your peers respect you, keep your boasting to yourself. Humility will result in more compliments from your coworkers over time, and it is much more rewarding to hear these things from someone else.
3. Learn to say "no"
While you may be tempted to say "yes" to everything asked of you, it's often best to know when to say "no". Not only does saying "no" keep you from doing something you don't want to do, it also helps show that you're a strong individual and capable of making your own decisions.
4. Back yourself and your ability
Being confident in your skills and abilities is a huge factor when it comes to how people perceive you. Knowing what you are good at will encourage people to respect your abilities. So understand your strengths, and be confident that you can do your job.
5. Show patience
Everyone says that patience is a virtue. Showing others that you are patient can go a long way in helping them respect you as a person. Rushing someone to finish a job will stress them out and usually result in poorer performance.
6. Be inclusive
Excluding people from groups or activities in the office is a surefire way to lose their respect. Including everyone in your activities, parties, or social gatherings will help boost your image in their eyes, and strengthen relationships in the process.
7. Avoid gossip
Talking about your coworkers behind their backs will most likely cause conflict. If you become known as the office gossip, you can be sure that people will not want to talk to you and you'll lose their respect. Even if someone else at your job wants to tell you some dirt, take the high road!
8. Always be professional
There's a big difference between how you're seen in the office and how you're seen at home. The way you speak and act at work is often the only information people have to understand who you are as a person. You should always be professional so that others will respect you as a career-focused individual.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t have fun at work! Just know where to draw the line.
9. Solve problems for people
Helping those around you is a great way to improve your relationships with them. Even something as small as helping someone with a personal problem, or errand they could do themselves, will give you bonus points in terms of respect within the workplace.
10. Respect everyone else
If you want to be respected, you must respect others as well. If you start disrespecting others, you can be sure they'll return the feelings. Regardless of how you may feel about someone else at work, show everyone the same level of respect you seek in return.
11. Connect people
Connecting other people and helping them form relationships with one another is also a great way to improve your image in their eyes. When it comes to the corporate world, people value strong relationships and connections more than almost anything else. If you can be the one to initiate those connections, it places you in a strong frame of reference with these individuals.
12. Don't make it about you
It's normal for people to want to talk about themselves. If you can avoid this, and focus on asking questions to others, you'll notice a big boost in the number of people that want to talk to you. Listening to others, instead of just waiting to speak, will certainly gain you respect.
13. Be generous
Generosity is a powerful trait that people will want to surround themselves with. Giving to others not only helps them, but helps you be seen as a caring individual. If you want respect, be generous.
14. Accept responsibility for your mistakes
Mistakes are bound to happen. Instead of pushing the blame onto others, accepting your faults will help others see you as a responsible person.
15. Seek feedback
Asking others for advice and feedback shows you're open to suggestion and want to improve. If others know you value their advice, you'll gain respect in their eyes.
16. Manage upwards
It's easy to guide those you manage in the right direction, but it's much harder to influence those above you in the organisation. Managing upwards is a sign of strength and confidence that others will respect.
17. Be a mentor
Mentoring a peer is a clear indicator that you're a leader and deserve respect. Not only will the person being mentored see you as a leader, but others around will also notice.
18. Show your worth (subtly)
While you don't want to brag, you should put effort into showing your worth. Showing others that you are intelligent and capable will give you a huge boost of respect and confidence.
19. Always be positive
Being positive, no matter the odds, is a key quality of a leader. Even those who feel down will take notice of you being positive and want to follow along.
As you will probably spend a good portion of your life at work, it's important to be comfortable and confident. This involves knowing and liking what you do, but also having the respect of your peers. Following these few tips can help you gain that respect and appreciation that you deserve.